It’s Valentines Day and what better way to celebrate than writing an anti-relationship blog post! Just kidding, I’m not actually anti-relationship, I just find it perplexing that as women we are conditioned from a young age to perceive love and relationships as our final stage of fulfilment – that without it, any of our hard work or success is invalid.

My choice to not be with someone at this stage in my life is because I value my independence. At the moment I’m working on myself and my future and I don’t have time to devote to a relationship. I consider myself hard working and I will continue to work hard to achieve my goals. I believe independence is a choice and I would encourage everyone to be independent and secure within themselves.

I think it’s so important to be your own person; this makes you strong and self-assured. I believe I will eventually find someone who embraces who I am as a person but is independent of me – secure and ambitious in their own right. I will never allow someone to control me or change who I am. It’s wonderful if you eventually find someone or have already found someone who loves, supports and encourages you to pursue your passions. I’m not saying you have to be single in order to succeed, rather that you need to know who you are independently of someone else.

The important point here is that when you do meet the right person, you will be sure of it, because you are sure of yourself. So enjoy your single status, never let your happiness depend on another. You don’t need anyone to be complete – you, as an individual, already are. To every single woman out there who is working hard and grinding to achieve their goals – your work is valid and I wish you nothing but success in all that you pursue.